Thursday, September 19, 2013

Happy Parenting 5: Refresh & Restore Happy Family

Om Shanti

In the last blog we have seen that Positive Thinking and attitude is essential for Happy Parenting. Today we will discover the secret to Positive Attitude.

ST is full of blogs on happiness and positive attitude. You might yourself have written a couple of times about the positive attitude & secrets of happiness. So this concept is not new, only my perspective is different. We all know advantage of positive attitude & how to be positive. The question is why are we not happy most the time then? Where are we missing the secret of happiness?

Did you ever observe the phenomenon of morning forgiveness? It is nothing complicated. It is just about a normal morning when you slept well and refreshed, looking good. If your child makes a small mistake, you would forgive them easily and not mind much. It happens all the time. You got along with your normal stressful day at work or home and a bit tired by the evening. Then when were just sitting down to relax a bit, your child commits even smaller mistake before you, the reaction at that time is irritation and anger usually disproportional to the mistake. What was the difference between morning & evening?

In the morning you were refreshed & recharged by very good sleep. In the evening you were tired. This tired state of mind is cause of negative outlook. If we weren’t tired then we might have behaved properly and retained our happiness. All thru the day we got drained bit by bit and lost our happiness. People think we need to be positive to be happy. But it is the other way around.

One is positive when one is happy & negative when tired/unhappy. Happiness is not a derivative but Positive attitude is the derivative of happy state of mind. To be positive one needs to maintain happy state of mind all day. Never let go of happiness. Happiness is the fundamental state of our mind. Happiness is the cause of what we do, it is not the result. It is important to refresh & recharge self with happiness to restore happiness in our family.

If we give Rs 10 to someone the amount in our possession is reduced by that amount. When we smile at someone, they smile back. Did we lose our smile? No it got multiplied. This is the difference between money & happiness. When we give money we lose it & when we give happiness it multiplies. Only way to increase happiness is to give it in our every action. But the problem is are not in the habit of maintaining happy mood all day and forget to give happiness. When we become sad and tired we cant give any because we don’t have any left.

We will deal with the question of how to maintain our fundamental state of happiness all day long in the next blog.

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