Recently i was asked "How do i Love my self?" by a very close friend who was facing some problems.
This is very fundamental question that should have been answered in primary school education but unfortunately our education does not understand importance of love in life. It is all about language, math, science, etc, which are good but we still need to review.
Love is also most misunderstood term. People think love is a feeling, emotion or passion. If you ask me, love is just love. One can express love with different feelings like happiness, affection, jealousy, possessiveness, and even hatred is an expression of love. If there was no love there would be indifference but hatred is negative expression of love fundamentally speaking. Similarly lot of different types of emotions express love ranging from enthusiasm, bliss, fear, anger, etc.
Love itself is more fundamental than any of these feelings or emotions. They say love is what connects and sustains this world. When we care for somebody, being affectionate, this is simplest expression of love. When we show concern and empathy, it is again love. Love is expressed in all different relationships in different ways. The way we love our mother is different from way we love our brothers and sisters. How we connect with person decides how we express love, also the expectations play their own part.
Love is not what we logically analyse and accept, or a give and take. Love never cares about justifications or acceptance. Love is not limited that we loose it if we give. More we give more we find love. Again we need not find love outside, we do not need anyone to love us if we learn to love ourselves. We can live independently and happily giving love because we have abundance of it when we love ourselves. Love exists for loves sake and for each and everyone of us. We dont have to worry if a person will reciprocate or not, not to worry about rejection when we love for sake of love. Happiness lives in the wake of love, so if we learn to love, we are always happy.
Only person who looses love is the one who forgets to love the self. Loving our self is what creates abundance of love which overflows to everyone around us. Then we are back to the question how do we love ourself?
what do you feel when you listen to the words, affection, care, concern, happiness, etc. can we correlate these words to relationships in our life how ever small or significant. The relationship where these apply strongly are where our love is channeled. what do we do for a person we love? we care for them, we present gifts, spend time with them, do what they like and need, right?
Now when we love ourselves, all we need to do is the same for our self. Care for our body and mind. Present gifts to self. Spend time for exercising our body or a relaxing massage and reading/watching inspirational books, programs, etc. Spending time reviewing life and meditating. Giving more importance to peace, happiness and harmony in our life. I practice Rajyoga Meditation at Brahma Kumaris, Its been a blessing for many years. This is what we can start doing to love our self. When we are in harmony with our body and mind, there is peace and happiness in our life.
We are not starved for attention and do not remain at the mercy of others (read partners, relations, friends or anybody). This solves many problems in life and gives us strength to face any issues that challenge us, personally, professionally and socially.
When do I start loving my self? Now, Now, Now. I dont need anybodies permission to care for myself, do i? We dont even need money to do most of these. Going for a pleasant walk requires only will to go nothing else.
All the best loving beings. Om Shanti
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
Wednesday, June 01, 2011
Balancing Act
We can think Balance in life is very complex subject to look at and understand, difficult to have in practical situations, there is soo much +1, 0, -1 how would i know if my action is +1 or -1? when there are so many grey areas to nit pick and all.... or not. It can also be very simple and easy to understand, depends on your perspective and understanding.
Let us look at simple balance old fashioned one used to weigh in shops or the one you can see the Lady Justice holding in her hand in some old courts if you have them these days. There is a balancing arm held in center with two bowls hanging with threads or chains. what does it represent? we only know that when there is equal weight on both sides the bowls are at same level, then it is called balance. but million dollar question is what is being weighed here?
is it Positive Vs Negative, Good Vs Bad or God Vs Satan? none of these.
The balance has on one side the issues, situations, fears and past that you face, and other side is your capabilities, wisdom, courage and virtues. When your abilities on one side are able to weigh down the problems you face, then you are careless and lazy, wont grow. When problems weigh down your abilities and you are not able to cope then you are under stress, depression or breakdown.
Balance is in between when you are able to face the challenges by developing yourself all the time and increasing the weight of your capabilities. In Life we never achieve a perfect balance because it would mean stagnation we always want the balance swinging slightly with in a range, this will cause growth and satisfaction, fun and hard work.
It was never about good or bad, positive or negative. Balance is about how much you can tolerate and grow. How good you are a judge of your capabilities. If we are lacking some where we got to learn and earn to cope up to bring back the balance in tolerable zone. When one is not able to keep it swinging in the right zone but one side goes down and other side is lighter, then the person is said to have lost balance. In short either too depressed or too lazy and careless.
where does Good Vs Evil come into play then?
Obviously in movies and gossip. LOL..... or may be in philosophy and myth. It exciting to have a dramatic story of a hero a role model with all the super human capabilities or Demi God to idolize. We can take inspiration from them, nothing wrong with that.
Point is when you have good balance in life, you become Good, you know the right way and do the right thing. When one is unable to maintain the balance then one is forced to be a hypocrite and does wrong things due to ignorance, commits crime and even silly mistakes which people regret.
Its a simple perspective of life. Accept life, know what you are and improve that is balance. Nothing else.
Let us look at simple balance old fashioned one used to weigh in shops or the one you can see the Lady Justice holding in her hand in some old courts if you have them these days. There is a balancing arm held in center with two bowls hanging with threads or chains. what does it represent? we only know that when there is equal weight on both sides the bowls are at same level, then it is called balance. but million dollar question is what is being weighed here?
is it Positive Vs Negative, Good Vs Bad or God Vs Satan? none of these.
The balance has on one side the issues, situations, fears and past that you face, and other side is your capabilities, wisdom, courage and virtues. When your abilities on one side are able to weigh down the problems you face, then you are careless and lazy, wont grow. When problems weigh down your abilities and you are not able to cope then you are under stress, depression or breakdown.
Balance is in between when you are able to face the challenges by developing yourself all the time and increasing the weight of your capabilities. In Life we never achieve a perfect balance because it would mean stagnation we always want the balance swinging slightly with in a range, this will cause growth and satisfaction, fun and hard work.
It was never about good or bad, positive or negative. Balance is about how much you can tolerate and grow. How good you are a judge of your capabilities. If we are lacking some where we got to learn and earn to cope up to bring back the balance in tolerable zone. When one is not able to keep it swinging in the right zone but one side goes down and other side is lighter, then the person is said to have lost balance. In short either too depressed or too lazy and careless.
where does Good Vs Evil come into play then?
Obviously in movies and gossip. LOL..... or may be in philosophy and myth. It exciting to have a dramatic story of a hero a role model with all the super human capabilities or Demi God to idolize. We can take inspiration from them, nothing wrong with that.
Point is when you have good balance in life, you become Good, you know the right way and do the right thing. When one is unable to maintain the balance then one is forced to be a hypocrite and does wrong things due to ignorance, commits crime and even silly mistakes which people regret.
Its a simple perspective of life. Accept life, know what you are and improve that is balance. Nothing else.
Thursday, May 05, 2011
What does Doomsday mean to me?
Will there be change at this time?
It is obvious that time is changing faster and faster these days, and change is permanent.
Will there be destruction & war?
Man has made weapons of mass destruction which are capable of destroying world many times over. With degrading morality and self control every day from top to bottom of all societies and governments ( politician stands for lier/manipulator and bureaucrat for corruption in most countries more so in developed & superpowers of now and future). Increasing volatility in middle east and so on.... what is the probability of world war 3? doesn't seem far fetched.
Will there be natural calamities?
If increasing lethality of earthquakes, floods and hurricanes around the world is to go by, you can answer it by your self.
Will there be spiritual renaissance?
Seeds of this spiritual renaissance is visible and is expected to grow exponentially during worst of times to come. which appears to be more of cleaning the world of bad and weak, survival of the fittest?
What will be future?
No body can say for certain what is going to happen in their own life tomorrow. But we can all hope and work for creating heaven on earth. Hope is the best. why not be happy and spread love. give up worry and tension and accept faith and peace.
It is obvious that time is changing faster and faster these days, and change is permanent.
Will there be destruction & war?
Man has made weapons of mass destruction which are capable of destroying world many times over. With degrading morality and self control every day from top to bottom of all societies and governments ( politician stands for lier/manipulator and bureaucrat for corruption in most countries more so in developed & superpowers of now and future). Increasing volatility in middle east and so on.... what is the probability of world war 3? doesn't seem far fetched.
Will there be natural calamities?
If increasing lethality of earthquakes, floods and hurricanes around the world is to go by, you can answer it by your self.
Will there be spiritual renaissance?
Seeds of this spiritual renaissance is visible and is expected to grow exponentially during worst of times to come. which appears to be more of cleaning the world of bad and weak, survival of the fittest?
What will be future?
No body can say for certain what is going to happen in their own life tomorrow. But we can all hope and work for creating heaven on earth. Hope is the best. why not be happy and spread love. give up worry and tension and accept faith and peace.
Consciousness, Thoughts, Energy & Matter
Matter energy equivalence in science is well established. In nuclear reactions matter transforms into energy and energy into matter. Its quite common. Even on form of matter or element (Chemistry) changes into another. which was dream of alchemists of the past. They dreamed about transforming Lead into Gold ( philosophers stone? ). One form of energy transforming into other was very common and used way back before newton. light converting into heat and electricity is very common today. this establishes that matter and all forms of energy we use are various manifestations of same material in different elements and energies.
But when we talk about mind matters, consciousness, etc. It is only clear that mind influences matter. Or matter has the ability to act according wishes of mind. Problem with science is it does not know that thoughts exist and have certain energy associated with them which in turn influences matter. This energy in many spiritual schools of thoughts has been shown as subtle or astral matter and and energy belonging to a different plane of our existence. Thoughts do not behave like matter or material energy. Thought energy is more clearly understood based on power of faith, will and persistence. This in turn is influenced by consciousness which controls thoughts. consciousness is even more sublime than astral. Totally different plane as it does not follow properties or laws of thoughts and astral.
Energies on these three planes of consciousness, astral and physical influence one another but do not follow each others laws of existence. They act differently and respond differently, yet there is a harmony in those interactions which makes our life easier and automatic on earth.
When light becomes heat, it acts like heat and there is less light. when lead is transformed into another element, there is less lead and more of the element produced. This is transformation.
When we wish for something to happen and it happens, the total mass and energy of physical world is not altered, but only there is increase or decrease in measure of disorder in the world. (laws of thermodynamics for science students). So thoughts influence matter but do not become matter or material energy in my knowledge. Thus Law of conservation of energy and matter is valid in physical world.
Om Shanti
But when we talk about mind matters, consciousness, etc. It is only clear that mind influences matter. Or matter has the ability to act according wishes of mind. Problem with science is it does not know that thoughts exist and have certain energy associated with them which in turn influences matter. This energy in many spiritual schools of thoughts has been shown as subtle or astral matter and and energy belonging to a different plane of our existence. Thoughts do not behave like matter or material energy. Thought energy is more clearly understood based on power of faith, will and persistence. This in turn is influenced by consciousness which controls thoughts. consciousness is even more sublime than astral. Totally different plane as it does not follow properties or laws of thoughts and astral.
Energies on these three planes of consciousness, astral and physical influence one another but do not follow each others laws of existence. They act differently and respond differently, yet there is a harmony in those interactions which makes our life easier and automatic on earth.
When light becomes heat, it acts like heat and there is less light. when lead is transformed into another element, there is less lead and more of the element produced. This is transformation.
When we wish for something to happen and it happens, the total mass and energy of physical world is not altered, but only there is increase or decrease in measure of disorder in the world. (laws of thermodynamics for science students). So thoughts influence matter but do not become matter or material energy in my knowledge. Thus Law of conservation of energy and matter is valid in physical world.
Om Shanti
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