Happy Parenting 3: Why dont Children listen to Parents?

Why don’t Children Listen to Parents?
This a control issue. Parents like children to do some things & not do certain things. Children in turn want to do some things and not do other things. Now there is a clash of interests. Parents want to watch serials/news and children movies/cartoons on TV. Parents want children to study and children want to play. Each one of you can contribute and make a separate blog of this list.

Core of this issue is parents want some control over what children do and children dont want to give up the control.
Then who controls the children? Good question. Answer is their friends or someone who is cool in their perspective.

Why are their friends so cool and parents so uncool? Answer is Freedom or Self Control.
If parents have freedom in their life they are cool. If parents are always worried then they are uncool. Some kids act as if they own the world, such kids are considered cool. Parents act worried all the time with one thing or other, sometimes its work, sometimes its family problem, they have Hugh burden. Parents lack enough self control to act cool. Children don’t have burdens or responsibilities so they always act cool. You are compared unfairly? Can’t help it, Life is never fair, get on with it. Following is How Cool Test to check your level on cool scale.
If you score 3 your are just too cool,
Score 2  is very cool,
Score 1 is cool,
Score 0 makes you really uncool man.
I have the marks in your favor, don’t complain now.

How Cool Test
Do you watch TV? Yes? Good.
What would you do when u get commercial break? Obviously change the channel. Right?
How? Silly question, with Remote control.

Let us assume for the sake of test. Your face is your TV and your different moods are your channels. Channel 1 – Happiness, channel 2 - Worry, channel 3 - Fear, channel 4 - Anger, and so one. Remember that everyone around you is watching your face day in and out especially your kids. They want you cool. Which channel would you like to play?
What’s your favorite channel? Channel 1 - Happiness Right? I knew it everybody I asked choose the same one.
Now if we can find the remote we would always play channel 1 - Happiness. If we are playing any other channel it means someone else has the remote.
Where is the Remote? This is the test. If you find the remote with you in the given situation you get 1 point, else zero points.

Situation 1: You have a very important meeting at office and as usual you are running out of time. Right at that moment you get a phone call from some relative who has emotional emergency in the morning, you put all your efforts to calm them in 5 minutes and cut the call. But now you are really late. Next you get your boss calling on the phone asking you for some file before meeting so come bit early. Now you rush out of house, get on your conveyance and start riding faster than usual. As you are going through the least traffic route at as much speed as you can, you suddenly find a couple of buffalos crossing the road blocking your way. You had to apply breaks. How do you feel? Irritated? Angry? Worried? If answer is yes your remote control is with Buffalo. Buffalo was able to change your channel. If you had your remote you would play Channel 1 - Happiness remembers?
Lost this one? No problem let’s try the next, you can still be very cool.

Situation 2: That meeting went really well. Boss appreciated you before all the colleagues. They all congratulated you and had a tea party before leaving for the day. Now you are at Channel 1 - Happy, right. Remember to be there, warning you before you lose it again, don’t say I didn’t warn you.
You are happy all the way home. But as you enter the door, you find that a big fight is going on in your family. I don’t know who is fighting, it’s your family. It happens all the time, right? You are now dealing with the mess, how are you feeling? Obviously not happy. You have lost your remote control to the angry members of your family. They changed the channel right from happy to unhappy?
Lost this one? It ok family has always been an issue for everybody. You can still be cool. Let’s try the next one.

Situation 3: One of your friends needs some favour from you. So they call you up for a Dinner or Tea or something. When you meet them they are extremely gracious and praise you to the sky. Make some joke always taking care of keep you happy. What channel are we playing? Channel 1 - Happiness. We want to play Channel 1 - Happiness. We are playing it. But who is playing it? Are we able to play it naturally or is it this praise (maska)? If it is praise then they got your remote. If you are naturally happy always then you are cool.

Happy Parents are Cool Parents
Children like happy parents in all the different situations. they feel secure and cared for in a happy family. If the parents are always worried, burdened, angry, serious, it so uncool for them. They feel secure when they are with cool people. So such cool people have control of your children. If parents don’t have their remote control, children will learn how not to have control over self. They will never learn how to control self. So they become gullible and easily manipulated by the world around. Such children cannot face the world and tend to become depressed under peer pressure, parent pressure and all different issues. Today this is the reason for some many kids committing Suicide. So be a happy parent for your kids’ sake. Learn self control and be happy.

Happy Parenting 2: How do children face Life?

Mothers feelings: Feel loved and blessed for having baby
Children from very young age have inquisitive nature to know things. Even in the form of fetus the baby learns to communicate with mother and surroundings. Feel the mother’s feelings and thoughts about the baby and creates opinion about life. once born they are more inputs available, touch, sight, taste, smell, pain, comfort and all host of different information.

Mother needs to feel loved and blessed for having baby. A mother reading positive inspirational book helps a lot. Meditation is best learnt and benefitted from by mothers at this stage.

Inquisitive: Not satisfying curiosity is most harmful
As the Baby grows into toddler, learns to walk and talk, they have ultimate amount of enthusiasm to learn to walk and talk. Their persistence and efforts to move around and explore the world around is amazing. They want to touch & taste everything and anything. They get attracted to different sounds and remember them. How parents interact with this toddler helps them or makes their life difficult.

For example if the kids wants to play with candle flame. Parents usually take the kid away from it because they feel it’s harmful for the kid. But they don’t understand is not satisfying kids inquiry is even more harmful because kid will try behind your back. Its best of parents hold the kids hands and take it close to flame cautiously so the fingers feel the heat and kid will pull back from the flame when it gets too hot for them and learn an important lesson about flame. They will always be responsible with flame once they learn this lesson. This is the way to teach responsibility to kids.

Peoples Opinion: Kids opinion is worth more than what parents think
Parents grow used to too many demands and don’t pay attention for the intellectual requirement of the baby. They depend heavily on all the free suggestions they receive from soliciting horde of friends and relatives who act as if they are experts on the subject. This is the struggle of the toddler, as they are treated by the standards of their parent’s advisors and their own curiosities and interests don’t matter. Yet they prevail and do well in the greatest love and care of the parents to whom they are everything. They recognize most of the relatives and have an opinion about them by this time. Their innocent opinion is worth more than what the entire intellectual understanding about people, elders have if you care to learn from them their perspective.

Verbal Instruction: Trust is the most precious of all feelings a kid can have towards parents.
Children never like parents to take them for granted in anything. It’s a great responsibility and most patient job in the world to explain and teach kids of this age about what everything is. Visual and positive emotional stories help them a lot. If parents are able to create positive dialogue and explain things so that kids have the right opinion about surroundings, they will not be shocked about the truth later. Trust is the most precious of all feelings a kid can have towards parents. Avoid losing trust for any silly reason. It’s the responsibility of parents to teach the children about how to deal with things, situations and other kids. It’s never wrong to say I don’t know, kids will accept that and learn to accept ignorance. When parents act know it all they will learn know it all arrogant behavior.

Being There: Talk to children and learn what they feel is right & wrong
So availability of parent & simple honesty are the best way to earn that. Time you spend on kids cannot be substituted for anything; lost time is lost forever. Their learning cannot be stopped because parents are busy. They learn from other kids, TV, maids, relatives and all those who are available for them. If you can’t teach don’t expect them to grow up as you like or learn ethics you like. Rather it would be better if parents talk to children and patiently learn what they think is right & wrong. Then we get an idea of their ethics and help them correct their opinion. Most of the time, they have better ethics than elders.

Exploring world: Ethics are thought by living them and not by preaching them
Allow children to explore the world in supervision. Do not cling to children as they get older, they like to be independent. They like to be respected and treated as equals. Be there when they need, let them find their way in the world. When you feel they are taking wrong direction help them understand what’s wrong with their thinking logically. Help them overcome their fears and become confident. It doesn’t matter what you think is right & wrong, it’s always what they think is important. Help them shape their ethics, don’t teach self control with instructions but with your behavior. More control you have, they will learn that naturally from you. Ethics are thought by living them and not by preaching them.

Happy Parenting 1

Om Shanti 

We are always amazed by the intelligence and wisdom kids teach us lots of times. Kids are said to be representatives of God in each family. we cherish and nurture them. The Issue with today's children is the major complaint from parents is children don't listen to us. As if they ever listened to their parents when they were that young. many of you would protest that you were not like that. I know you were not because you didn't have the exposure of what today's kids have. Now that we have stated the problem. lets look at the solution. few tips on parent of the day.

Tip 1: Beat children as much as you want when you are not angry.
When children are being uncontrollable and difficult use as much force as needed to make them understand. But on one condition, that you should not be angry when you are using force. This is very important. you should never ever abuse your children because you could not control your temper. That would be serious case of child abuse. Children are small and cant hit you back and vulnerable, it is their bubbly energy that makes them naughty to have fun when you are so boring for them.

Your getting angry is your problem not childrens, If you loose patients then you lost it, not the children.It would be grave mistake to make children responsible for your state of mind. Practice meditation and empower your self, else you are not worthy of your childrens care taking previledges.

why? because when you hit children in anger they learn an important lesson, they are allowed to be as naughty as they want but only not when you are angry. They will never learn the lesson you want to teach but only that which they understand. They know now how to test your patients instead of how to respect. When you are angry with children and lost control, you lost all your respect.

If you hit them always when you are cool, they will know that they were punished for their mistake and not for your anger. They will learn their lesson and never dare to repeat it. but then if you really follow this, you may never have to use beating on them in the first place. If you want to be happy parent remember to give up anger.

Tip 2: Never become sad about what children say to you.
Story time: There was a mother who loved her son. One day she wanted to make something special for her son so she went to the market specially for him and got all the ingrdients of his favorite dish. She took lot of efforts to prepare the difficult dish and tasted it to perfection. When everything was ready for the surprise her son came running home at lunch time. She was very satisfied with her preparation and served him his favorite dish. He was hungry and started immeidately on the dish, eating his full. She asked him when he finished, how the dish was? and he replies "there is defenitely something wrong with it, its not what i used to like".

What would the reaction of the mother be? what is your reaction? mother obviously is sad now and blames herself for not being able to satisfy her son. she broods for the whole day may be cry some. Is this what happens in your life? sounds common isnt it?

Now let me ask you a series of questions.
who is the best cook in your family? you right?
who knows wether the taste is good or bad? you would, if not you would know something isnt right before serving.
Dont you have confidence in your cooking skills or tasting skill? you wouldnt feel bad if the dish really went bad.

Mothers in their selfish attachment loose the happiness of love. She was happy as long as she was cooking and tasting. she was happy when she was shopping for ingredients. she was happy when serving.

she became unhappy when she expected appreciation instead of loving her son. The real reason for the cooments of the son was he had a fight with his friends and in a bad mood. his mood tasted bad which projected on his behaviour and taste not your ability. If you really love someone never take their comments personally but beware of their moods. If you care for your kids this is the time you need to be happy that you are able to help your kid, not sad and crying or brooding. Kid is asking for your help expressing his bad mood. If you the mother asks whats the matter, then he might appreciate some emotional support he needs. but then because mother is sad, he cant go to her and she is un available in his need. So mother is branded useless emotioanlly in need. he learns that he can always play with her mood though. he looses some of the respect for the mother. Same thing happens with Fathers. If you love your kids always be attentive to their needs. They will appreciate you when their needs are met not when you want them to. Happy family is a great family and you are responsible for the happiness.

Happy Parenting.

Secret of how to never get hurt in Love?

Om Shanti

"Why does everything seem beautiful in love?
The one who tortures, why does s/he still look heart-warming,
The one who we love, even if s/he breaks our heart,
Why don't the heart count him/her as bad..?
Someone tell me what's love... love..." - from another blogger


Secret 0: Love is expression not expectation. 
Love self before you love others.
Love is our divine spiritual nature. To love isnt optional but natural for us. Human beings life is sustained on love from the moment we are born. There are secrets less understood which are key to happiness in love. We find happiness when we express love and become miserable when we expect it. People we love exploit us when we expect love. Expectation of love is like giving control of our life to them irresponsibly. Always check your status of love, is it expression or expectation. Love makes everything worth living for and life becomes beautiful.

Secret 1: We love because love is wonderful
I will love you if u love me is key to disaster in love.
When we see a green leaf, its nature is greenness. It doesnt expect color green but expresses green color. Similarly our nature is to love, that is we love naturally. we dont need to expect love to love. it isnt a give and take proposition.  When a mother loves her baby, she doesnt expect anything for few years in return. She cares only about well being of the baby. There is no question of does the baby love me? that is the reason the relationship between mother and baby is spiritual and divine. When we love this way every relationship is wonderful.

Secret 2: Love is understanding not questioning.
I expect appreciation from my loved is true way to be miserable most of our life.
When someone we love behaves badly and doesnt appreciate us, its not because they dont love us. Its because they are in a bad mood due to some other reason most of the time. If we realize this key and learn to be understanding and patient people we love can never make us miserable. This is what true love is about, understanding and patients. we become miserable when we fail in one of these. We can ignore their faults but not their intentions. Always  make sure their intentions are good.

Secret 3: Never take criticism and anger of those who you love personally.
How can the people we love be so insensitive?

People will always be who they are. more close you get to them more they take you for granted. So expect to become their vent sometimes without taking it personally. Its ok as long as this behavior is limited. Loving them doesnt mean taking all their negativity, its a privileged that they are receiving our love. make sure they know that. We have lots of other people we love who are more positive towards us. Cherish right people with love and you will always be surrounded by love.

Secret 4: Love is about sharing not possessing
Controlling or Possessive nature suffocates love
I need to be secure in who I am before I can claim to love anybody. Insecurity leads to controlling and possessive behavior. This isnt love but insecurity talking. when we see control issues and possessiveness then, its ego problem and not love at all. Avoid such problems like disease. Best way to avoid this is to share love with kind words, appreciation and showing concern for every person in your life. Do not limit love to few people. lesser the people you love more they control and suffocate your life.


Fact: I am the best person in my life
How can I be second priority in my life?
Have greatest love towards self, appreciate self and all all we have in our life. Only when we are loving towards our self can we have enough love to share with others. I cant share love when i am unhappy with myself. i can only give what i have. If i am miserable, i share misery. forgive and love self accepting self as is. I am the best person in my life is the spirit of love. This is the foundation of love. Never feel bad about being the first in your life. Nobodies wish is worth our happiness and love. Never sacrifice the most precious gift from God, our love and happiness. realize it and cherish it.

Best Person to Love is God. I always Gained a lot by loving Him. My Meditation is my love for Him. I did learn so much about love from Him

Happy loving.

B+ve to be Truthful

What is Truth?

A small kid of 5 years old asks his mother, how does that train run? Mother shows her hand at her mouth making gesture of train like we do saying “coooo chuk chuk chuk” animating enthusiastically and the kid is satisfied and learns something. Then again when same kid is in 5^th standard teacher tells him that the train engine runs on electricity and pulls the rest of it. When he gets to 10^th standard teacher explains in detail about working of steam engine, diesel and electrical engines and different ways a train works. Same one when he get his PhD. Is locomotive engineering, he will design and get u a new train design manufacture if u are able to fund the project. Let us ask our self which is the real truth? All the answers are valid and true, yet based on the situation relevant answers vary. Though absolute truth remains, what is relevant to the situation changes.

What about lies?

Anyone who lies does so because they are afraid of truth and don’t know how to use it. We don’t have to say, all we know in every situation but only what is called for in a give situation based on what we need to achieve by saying what we do. One needs to learn to be diplomatic, positive and appreciative of the person, giving the truth as required. Being straight forward when unnecessary is harmful and immature.

If you are at friends place and her mother gives you a cup of tea and which you are not able to appreciate the taste, you can instead compliment on the efforts she put in to make that tea for you. That would be truth too. There is always so much positive in the world around, when we make it our practice to appreciate all the good, we will never need to complain about the not so good things and speak about unpleasant truth when not required anyways.

What we need to understand is making a habit of lying is very harmful. Once a lie is told, then there will be need to lie many more times to cover it up and can lead to unnecessary embarrassment which could be avoided if we didn’t do it for some silly reason the first time. Speaking truth can be very unburdening sort of work.

What abt situations when we are required to speak about harmful truth? Isnt it better to lie?

One can refrain from speaking at all and refuse to answer. But our judgement that it is harmful may not be absolute; it may be for a greater good to speak truth.  We misunderstand and misjudge the situation and hide truth when truth can in fact can clear a lot of misunderstanding and save unnecessary pain. 99% of people lie not because it is really harmful but because they are insecure and confused. The agenda behind lying is not an honourable one usually. The intent is to harm or revenge, anger, jealousy most of the time.

Once we lie, we feel guilty and get trapped in stress, the tension of being discovered. Creating more harm than good to self and others. Once a person is known to lie they become untrustworthy and unreliable. This is the risk in lying. But more than that we are trapped in negativity and harm our life in this path much more than paltry gains we can expect.

Why do we feel compelled to lie?

When we see lot of people around us lying it becomes acceptable to lie. This is very harmful trend for the society. Being dishonest person starts with simple lies. Then the social conventions that expect you to lie openly are the worst instruments one can make to destroy the society. You are expected to behave in a certain way even if you don’t feel it at all, and so on create this training and situation like its a compulsion to lie these days because we are trained to do that from childhood.

Is lying necessary?

Not at all. One needs to learn positive thinking and learn to appreciate the good in people instead lying about their bad performance. People expect appreciation but not truth so why not appreciate them truthfully and gain their respect rather than lie and gain their ego boost? Most of the time they themselves know you are lying so it really doesn’t help gain respect if they hear what they expect. We can be more tactful and diplomatic to gain real respect and show ourself to be trustworthy and valuable to people around us when we speak positive and appreciate people truthfully.

What is Life Changing Absolute Truth? How do we stop lying?

At Brahma Kumaris the spiritual truth behind our existence and God are thought. We learn how to meditate on the positive powers of God and empower our soul. We learn to see positive in every person and aspect of life. We realise that there is no need to lie at all. We focus on good and improve, that is all to it. This positivity brings happiness, focus, harmony and contentment in life.

The absolute truth is that we are spiritual beings called Soul or Atma. Life consciousness controlling this body whose natural nature is to express peace, love, happiness. When we look into our own consciousness we find there is lot of love and peace inside us to be unlocked and spread all around us. This peace, love and happiness, they increase when you give. So we tend to give more and more to gain even more. This is the real truth that matters.

Let us define what we want to be and then let others define us as we want to be.

Everyone influences our behaviour to smaller or greater extent, true. How we allow others to influence our behaviour is purely our choice and strength. Given same situation of verbal jab, one might grow tolerant and loving saint where as another becomes a bitter resentment. What makes one follow different path is personal will and purpose. What ever happens outside is just a stepping stone for us to move forward. It is a test which benchmarks our progress. Our reactions and actions with respect to the situation is what defines us as who we have become at that moment. We dont need others to define us. Many a time we create situations without anyone doing or saying anything. Lot of people keep worrying without need for external stimuli.

Only when we choose the direction we shall move in using all the stepping stones to take us in the chosen direction, we can be called reasonably worthy humans. Rest are all following the crowd and being tossed and turned by the wind so to speak. This does not mean that people around you are not influencing but one chooses how others shall influence them by their own virtue either consciously or unconsciously.

So let us take this theory positively for our spiritual development so that we can grow instead tending to blame the whole world, parents and society. Most of the times we live in places where situations are overwhelming us, if this is the case then we need to do lot of soul searching to find a place where we can handle, choose a role which is within our reach and better for our growth, find people who will support us in this direction. We need to gather enough courage and will to do the right thing, its very difficult but worth it.

It is important to know that we do not move ahead just by our self, we are in this world and every aspect of the world influences us, every person we meet and every situation and material. All these help us move forward. It is like friction, we would not be able to walk if there was no friction between our feet and ground, yet this friction is what slows us down, lesser the friction easier we move. So we should be thankful to everyone and everything for our progress and be aware of which direction we shall move using this friction. To reduce friction we must become less egoistic, ego causes friction which moves us forward. Then when we are confident to fly we can renounce ego. Till then ego will keep us firm on ground.

So we need to accept all our shortcomings and weakness as a friction that is helping us move forward. Acceptance of self with proper perspective without judging and feeling bad or guilty is difficult but necessary in all spiritual development. We need lot of tolerance, courage and meditation to empower self to that extent to be able to do it. I use Rajayoga meditation(Brahma Kumaris) to do be aware of my actions all the time and change them in the direction i choose.

Let us define what we want to be and then let others define us as we want to be.

Loving self and Loving being

Recently i was asked "How do i Love my self?" by a very close friend who was facing some problems.

This is very fundamental question that should have been answered in primary school education but unfortunately our education does not understand importance of love in life. It is all about language, math, science, etc, which are good but we still need to review.

Love is also most misunderstood term. People think love is a feeling, emotion or passion. If you ask me, love is just love. One can express love with different feelings like happiness, affection, jealousy, possessiveness, and even hatred is an expression of love. If there was no love there would be indifference but hatred is negative expression of love fundamentally speaking. Similarly lot of different types of emotions express love ranging from enthusiasm, bliss, fear, anger, etc.

Love itself is more fundamental than any of these feelings or emotions. They say love is what connects and sustains this world. When we care for somebody, being affectionate, this is simplest expression of love. When we show concern and empathy, it is again love. Love is expressed in all different relationships in different ways. The way we love our mother is different from way we love our brothers and sisters. How we connect with person decides how we express love, also the expectations play their own part.

Love is not what we logically analyse and accept, or a give and take. Love never cares about justifications or acceptance. Love is not limited that we loose it if we give. More we give more we find love. Again we need not find love outside, we do not need anyone to love us if we learn to love ourselves. We can live independently and happily giving love because we have abundance of it when we love ourselves. Love exists for loves sake and for each and everyone of us. We dont have to worry if a person will reciprocate or not, not to worry about rejection when we love for sake of love. Happiness lives in the wake of love, so if we learn to love, we are always happy.

Only person who looses love is the one who forgets to love the self. Loving our self is what creates abundance of love which overflows to everyone around us. Then we are back to the question how do we love ourself?

what do you feel when you listen to the words, affection, care, concern, happiness, etc. can we correlate these words to relationships in our life how ever small or significant. The relationship where these apply strongly are where our love is channeled. what do we do for a person we love? we care for them, we present gifts, spend time with them, do what they like and need, right?

Now when we love ourselves, all we need to do is the same for our self. Care for our body and mind. Present gifts to self. Spend time for exercising our body or a relaxing massage and reading/watching inspirational books, programs, etc. Spending time reviewing life and meditating. Giving more importance to peace, happiness and harmony in our life. I practice Rajyoga Meditation at Brahma Kumaris, Its been a blessing for many years. This is what we can start doing to love our self. When we are in harmony with our body and mind, there is peace and happiness in our life.

We are not starved for attention and do not remain at the mercy of others (read partners, relations, friends or anybody). This solves many problems in life and gives us strength to face any issues that challenge us, personally, professionally and socially.

When do I start loving my self? Now, Now, Now. I dont need anybodies permission to care for myself, do i? We dont even need money to do most of these. Going for a pleasant walk requires only will to go nothing else.

All the best loving beings. Om Shanti

Balancing Act

We can think Balance in life is very complex subject to look at and understand, difficult to have in practical situations, there is soo much +1, 0, -1 how would i know if my action is +1 or -1? when there are so many grey areas to nit pick and all.... or not. It can also be very simple and easy to understand, depends on your perspective and understanding.

Let us look at simple balance old fashioned one used to weigh in shops or the one you can see the Lady Justice holding in her hand in some old courts if you have them these days. There is a balancing arm held in center with two bowls hanging with threads or chains. what does it represent? we only know that when there is equal weight on both sides the bowls are at same level, then it is called balance. but million dollar question is what is being weighed here?
is it Positive Vs Negative, Good Vs Bad or God Vs Satan? none of these.

The balance has on one side the issues, situations, fears and past that you face, and other side is your capabilities, wisdom, courage and virtues. When your abilities on one side are able to weigh down the problems you face, then you are careless and lazy, wont grow. When problems weigh down your abilities and you are not able to cope then you are under stress, depression or breakdown.

Balance is in between when you are able to face the challenges by developing yourself all the time and increasing the weight of your capabilities. In Life we never achieve a perfect balance because it would mean stagnation we always want the balance swinging slightly with in a range, this will cause growth and satisfaction, fun and hard work.

It was never about good or bad, positive or negative. Balance is about how much you can tolerate and grow. How good you are a judge of your capabilities. If we are lacking some where we got to learn and earn to cope up to bring back the balance in tolerable zone. When one is not able to keep it swinging in the right zone but one side goes down and other side is lighter, then the person is said to have lost balance. In short either too depressed or too lazy and careless.

where does Good Vs Evil come into play then?
Obviously in movies and gossip. LOL..... or may be in philosophy and myth. It exciting to have a dramatic story of a hero a role model with all the super human capabilities or Demi God to idolize. We can take inspiration from them, nothing wrong with that.

Point is when you have good balance in life, you become Good, you know the right way and do the right thing. When one is unable to maintain the balance then one is forced to be a hypocrite and does wrong things due to ignorance, commits crime and even silly mistakes which people regret.

Its a simple perspective of life. Accept life, know what you are and improve that is balance. Nothing else.

What does Doomsday mean to me?

Will there be change at this time?
It is obvious that time is changing faster and faster these days, and change is permanent.

Will there be destruction & war?
Man has made weapons of mass destruction which are capable of destroying world many times over. With degrading morality and self control every day from top to bottom of all societies and governments ( politician stands for lier/manipulator and bureaucrat for corruption in most countries more so in developed & superpowers of now and future). Increasing volatility in middle east and so on.... what is the probability of world war 3? doesn't seem far fetched.

Will there be natural calamities?
If increasing lethality of earthquakes, floods and hurricanes around the world is to go by, you can answer it by your self.

Will there be spiritual renaissance?
Seeds of this spiritual renaissance is visible and is expected to grow exponentially during worst of times to come. which appears to be more of cleaning the world of bad and weak, survival of the fittest?

What will be future?
No body can say for certain what is going to happen in their own life tomorrow. But we can all hope and work for creating heaven on earth. Hope is the best. why not be happy and spread love. give up worry and tension and accept faith and peace.

Consciousness, Thoughts, Energy & Matter

Matter energy equivalence in science is well established. In nuclear reactions matter transforms into energy and energy into matter. Its quite common. Even on form of matter or element (Chemistry) changes into another. which was dream of alchemists of the past. They dreamed about transforming Lead into Gold ( philosophers stone? ). One form of energy transforming into other was very common and used way back before newton. light converting into heat and electricity is very common today. this establishes that matter and all forms of energy we use are various manifestations of same material in different elements and energies.

But when we talk about mind matters, consciousness, etc. It is only clear that mind influences matter. Or matter has the ability to act according wishes of mind. Problem with science is it does not know that thoughts exist and have certain energy associated with them which in turn influences matter. This energy in many spiritual schools of thoughts has been shown as subtle or astral matter and and energy belonging to a different plane of our existence. Thoughts do not behave like matter or material energy. Thought energy is more clearly understood based on power of faith, will and persistence. This in turn is influenced by consciousness which controls thoughts. consciousness is even more sublime than astral. Totally different plane as it does not follow properties or laws of thoughts and astral.

Energies on these three planes of consciousness, astral and physical influence one another but do not follow each others laws of existence. They act differently and respond differently, yet there is a harmony in those interactions which makes our life easier and automatic on earth.

When light becomes heat, it acts like heat and there is less light. when lead is transformed into another element, there is less lead and more of the element produced. This is transformation.

When we wish for something to happen and it happens, the total mass and energy of physical world is not altered, but only there is increase or decrease in measure of disorder in the world. (laws of thermodynamics for science students). So thoughts influence matter but do not become matter or material energy in my knowledge. Thus Law of conservation of energy and matter is valid in physical world.

Om Shanti